Tuesday, July 8, 2014

The Big Umbrella: The BDSM Blog Hop



BDSM is a big umbrella. Basically, it’s anything from this:




To this:



And pretty much anything you can think of in between. 

Which I guess makes it hard for people with no knowledge of BDSM to form an accurate picture of what it’s all about. And, let’s face it, what do those letters stand for anyway? It is Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism, or is it the compounded Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, and Sadism and Masochism? And is Sadism and Masochism the same as Sadomasochism? 

And what the hell are all those things anyway?

This stuff is complicated. Except where it's not. 

So here's where I talk about how it's not complicated. What works for you, works for you. What works for me, works for me. That is seriously as complicated as it gets. As long as everyone involved in any activity -- whether it's BDSM, BASE jumping, or tiddlywinks -- has consented to be there and agreed on the rules beforehand, it really is nobody else's business. See? Simple. 

I don’t really want to talk about all the misconceptions about BDSM out there. Frankly, if you follow my blog and you’re following this blog hop, you already know what I’m talking about.

But I do think it’s sometimes difficult for people to consider BDSM without an emotional reaction, whether that reaction is confusion, or disgust, or shock, or embarrassment. A lot of people don’t like talking about sex at all. Talking about kinky sex? Craziness!

But why is it still a taboo for a lot of people to talk about sex?

I think we’re sometimes afraid to admit our vulnerability. Whenever we open ourselves to another person, it takes trust. To do that during sex, when suddenly we’re sharing our imperfect bodies along with our imperfect desires, is an incredible thing. Add BDSM to the mix, and that trust is magnified.    

For me, the attraction of BDSM is not about the kink. It’s about the trust. Or maybe my kink is trust.


And trust is always a beautiful thing.

Guys, please click here to go to the hop page, and check out all the other authors joining the hop. 


3 comments:

  1. Hi Lisa, I love your comment "my kink is trust", it resonates with me. Great post.

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    1. Thanks, Ardent! It took me a while to realise that's what all the things I like have in common. :)

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  2. Awesome post. Love the comment about trust. Damn, sure would have liked to know what it's like to be with someone really could trust.

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