Thursday, May 24, 2012


A few days ago, a family member came out. She’s an educated professional in her thirties, surrounded by liberal friends and family. She has never backed down from an opinion in her life, yet coming out was a decision she wrestled with for over a year. That’s a long time to live with fear.

"Love in a Heart"
On paper it should have been a simple decision, but you don’t know.

It doesn’t matter how many GLBT friends we have in our lives, or GLBT causes we openly support because, until it comes down to it, you don’t know.

You don't know how people will react. 

The coming out horror stories don’t just come from the obvious places. Sometimes it’s the otherwise-liberal, otherwise-loving families that will slam the door in your face. And it must be terrifying to contemplate risking all of that for the sake of those two little words that are burning to get out: I’m gay.

To everyone, everywhere, who has been courageous enough to come out: I am so in awe of you. It’s a crazy-brave thing to do because even though the truth might set you free, it might also drag you through hell first. 

Saturday, May 12, 2012

Why I love writing romance

People are fascinating. I love the way we interact. I love the way we move into each other's spaces, the way we sometimes jostle, the way we bounce off each other. 

A relationship is made up of a million interactions, each one with a different nuance. 

In relationships, the unspoken words are just as loud as the spoken. 

Together, forever

I think people are amazing, and I think the most amazing thing any person can ever do is reach out to another human being. 

We don't always know what we want or who we are, but sometimes we know what we can't afford to lose. 

I love exploring that.